tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post4765005065032494002..comments2023-11-02T09:08:09.242-07:00Comments on <i>Daddy Dialectic</i>: A Note to the Judys of AmericaJeremy Adam Smithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11733669114207985920noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-89036594591241999862010-01-13T01:05:43.323-08:002010-01-13T01:05:43.323-08:00This is a great post! I think it is important to b...This is a great post! I think it is important to be reminded that even as politics and metropolitan areas become more liberal, there are still very many narrow viewpoints individuals foster. These ideals are passed onto their kids, though I hope those same kids are raised in a more openminded world!<br /><br />Thanks for posting.Melissahttp://predictablebutfun.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-71202845553677100632010-01-06T02:00:40.027-08:002010-01-06T02:00:40.027-08:00Heavens that terrible. One I can't believe som...Heavens that terrible. One I can't believe someone would think that way and then not have an issue tell a complete stranger about the way they feel. Maybe us British are more coy but I can't imagine someone saying that to me in the UK1child trust fundhttp://www.jumpsavings.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-21159667147478937862010-01-06T00:36:41.032-08:002010-01-06T00:36:41.032-08:00Thank you, sir. On behalf of the whole mingled, ov...Thank you, sir. On behalf of the whole mingled, overlapped, great community.<br /><br />Signed, <br />Too distracted by my (lesbian) parenthood to even pencil in any perversionPollyhttp://lesbiandad.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-35374307854453215922010-01-05T12:08:17.379-08:002010-01-05T12:08:17.379-08:00Or, to be more precise, "How could you raise ...Or, to be more precise, "How could you raise a family in a state like Florida with an economy that is essentially a real-estate ponzi scheme underpinned in part by South American drug money? It's perverted!"chicago pophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17055796523227869734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-44155270698946271322010-01-05T11:39:54.881-08:002010-01-05T11:39:54.881-08:00I think you did the right thing by not getting hos...I think you did the right thing by not getting hostile and by being good ambassadors from the world of West Coast perversion. If that were to happen enough, who knows, it might crack the cake on Judy's brain.<br /><br />However, it would have made an equally engaging post had you come back at Judy with a logically parallel comment about Florida being full of real-estate swindlers who have helped destroy the US economy.chicago pophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17055796523227869734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-7777815478994690122010-01-04T18:07:01.855-08:002010-01-04T18:07:01.855-08:00Here Here!! Well said!!
Living in Brooklyn NY I ...Here Here!! Well said!!<br /><br />Living in Brooklyn NY I have met more that a few Judys locally. What disturbs me most is how narrow this is becoming. The world of the Judys has become dominated by "perverts". It is how to tell them from us. That is an incredibly narrow set of definitions. There is just nowhere to go.rtb.inkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991129961063752156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-75002002930208519752010-01-04T18:00:54.343-08:002010-01-04T18:00:54.343-08:00Here ! Here!! Well Said!
Living in Brooklyn NY I ...Here ! Here!! Well Said!<br /><br />Living in Brooklyn NY I find a more then a few Judys still live very here and not in the stix. My concerns are when this sort of thinking has continued to narrow and become more and more focused on "Pervasion" as a definition for itself and others. The world boils down to Perverts, their supporters and the few good folk. There is just nowhere to go in that sort of narrow logic.rtb.inkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06991129961063752156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-31196454222853842062010-01-04T05:53:15.829-08:002010-01-04T05:53:15.829-08:00Honestly, I know that if I didn't live in the ...Honestly, I know that if I didn't live in the Bubble of Cambridge, MA, I'd get in fistfights. I'm not sure how many hearts or minds I would change that way.<br /><br />I think parents of GLBTQ youth do make a huge impact by publicly standing by their children; it's easy to scapegoat and abuse those whose families have abandoned them. <br /><br />Mom's take a lot more crap than dads when a kid emerges as GLBTQ; the thought that a stay at home dad might be involved never enters anyone's mind. (Because of course, getting 'enough dad' helps prevent homosexuality in these troglodytes minds.) <br /><br />The accepting parents of GLBTQ youth and GLBT parents are slowly chipping away at these stereotypes. Together we are rapidly weaving a web of love, friendship, acceptance, tolerance, around our families and friends. <br /><br />If six degrees is all that separates us, even with the red state blue state sorting, it will not take very long before the Judys are driven underground; when homophobia, like racism, takes on the status of the dirty joke not acceptable in public. There it will slowly recede and fester for centuries, but it won't be the force it is in public life today.Bedford Hopenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-77329979928962382952010-01-03T20:55:49.384-08:002010-01-03T20:55:49.384-08:00I also think that sometimes when you're in &qu...I also think that sometimes when you're in "the bubble" you hear the same crap, but just the other way around about other issues.<br /><br />I live in Portland (OR) but grew up in Houston. I often hear people make ignorant comments or otherwise say derogative things about "the south," yet in many ways Houston has a leg up on Portland! Portland seems to suffer from a much greater level of racism, segregation and class issues than I ever saw in Houston. Portland is truly a city of "haves" and "have nots." The problem is many of the "haves" either haven't seen (or don't care?) what the "have not" parts of town look like -- so to them Portland is a great city! If you're a "have" you might have access to hipster bars, light rail, the street car, frequent service bus routes, public parks, community center, bike paths, bike boulevards, etc. <br /><br />...but if you're a "have not," you might not even have a paved road, a curb or a sidewalk! <br /><br />I find it bizarre that many "haves" don't seem to find it odd that they only see white people everywhere. Having grown up in a very diverse area of Houston I really notice this and it makes me feel very uncomfortable.Maxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15822395052669121101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-13030750835442555672010-01-03T14:58:18.540-08:002010-01-03T14:58:18.540-08:00You make a good point, Rebecca--this has actually ...You make a good point, Rebecca--this has actually been a source of guilt for me over the years. Back when I lived in Florida, and especially when I was a student activist in Gainesville, I genuinely felt as though even small actions made an impact. Just being there, speaking up, living life a certain way, kept the community diverse and interesting, and the communication across political and social lines can be very direct. In San Francisco, that's generally not true; the city inspires me, but I'm well aware that I've exchanged one kind of diversity for another. So, yeah, hang in there.Jeremy Adam Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11733669114207985920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-13278908527978428632010-01-03T14:47:22.387-08:002010-01-03T14:47:22.387-08:00I understand how you feel about the "Judy&quo...I understand how you feel about the "Judy"s of this country -- living in Tennessee I am completely surrounded by them. It would be nice to be surrounded by like-minded individuals, as you are, but at the same time there are many nice things about living in this part of the country. <br /><br />I also think that the Judys and Bobs of the world will never become Rebeccas or Jeremys if they are never exposed to opposing viewpoints, which in a sense morally compels me to stay in my native South, even though I have so little in common with my fellow Southerners (I'm a breadwinning scientist mom with a stay-at-home dad husband, proud sister of a lesbian who has a partner and a son, and I'm politically similar to you). I just feel like even though it makes my life harder to live here, I need to stay as long as I can, to be one of the outspoken voices who say "no" when they take away gay adoption rights, women's right to choose, etc.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06927630155994067676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-49626657186314304952010-01-03T14:29:35.298-08:002010-01-03T14:29:35.298-08:00Oh I wish you could send Judy a hard copy of this!...Oh I wish you could send Judy a hard copy of this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com