tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post3361325671977087844..comments2023-11-02T09:08:09.242-07:00Comments on <i>Daddy Dialectic</i>: Going in ReverseJeremy Adam Smithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11733669114207985920noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-26261125731635824222008-01-14T18:52:00.000-08:002008-01-14T18:52:00.000-08:00We're also in the same situation as you, Ethel. DH...We're also in the same situation as you, Ethel. DH didn't really like his job, whereas, on average, I love what I do. And I make more than he did. The decision was relatively easy in that regard. The advantage I've found with DH staying home is that it has allowed him to pursue career opportunities he would not have had working full-time. He's getting his PhD (ok, not much progress there on the dissertation front, but we're working on it), and he is teaching. The teaching, especially, would have been difficult to pull off had he been working full-time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-2961339307022883482008-01-08T07:06:00.000-08:002008-01-08T07:06:00.000-08:00Ethel:We're in the same situation economically. An...Ethel:<BR/>We're in the same situation economically. And it does seem rare, which is why I'm glad to hear from you. The only difference is I was rather more fond of my "career", such as it was, than your husband. But like you, my wife loves her work, which is fortunate.chicago pophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17055796523227869734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-16332891720324246962008-01-07T16:35:00.000-08:002008-01-07T16:35:00.000-08:00The female half of a reverse-trad family here - yo...The female half of a reverse-trad family here - you say some of my own thoughts here. <BR/><BR/>I love the idea of the flexibility of the ESP family, but it also has more overhead. We give up that flexibility - but actually come out ahead in terms of finances with just my income - we're in the very rare situation that (a) my husband can *not* support the family on his income, and (b) when I work full-time, we *lose* money if DH works as well. This is due to child care for twin toddlers, taxes, commuting costs, extra health care costs (with two employers, extra fees apply no matter how we do it) and increased grocery costs (no time to cook or shop cheaply). It adds up to just over his total income. <BR/><BR/>We also have the added detail that I enjoy my work as a paid hobby, and DH saw his job as a necessary evil - bland, boring, and undesirable.EDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10667943283072409582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-44736024496463189862008-01-07T14:21:00.000-08:002008-01-07T14:21:00.000-08:00I agree - this post has some great insight. Since ...I agree - this post has some great insight. <BR/><BR/>Since I became a father, I often struggle with feelings of guilt for not being satisfied with just raising good kids. I feel as though I am being egotistical for wanting to keep up with other projects outside of the home and office. I rationalize them by seeing them as part of my personality, and things that I feel I must do to be happy - making music, art, etc. <BR/><BR/>I imagine that most stay-at-homers get these same feelings of guilt for wanting to hold on to some of their extracurricular goals and accomplish more than just parental success.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com