tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post2003516312003556705..comments2023-11-02T09:08:09.242-07:00Comments on <i>Daddy Dialectic</i>: Mommy Preference and PatriarchyJeremy Adam Smithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11733669114207985920noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-47308203360090483682011-04-03T16:16:27.650-07:002011-04-03T16:16:27.650-07:00I've got two young daughters and write to you ...I've got two young daughters and write to you from the whirlwind of their lives just now. My firstborn is 7, her sister is 3. They've got different mothers.<br /><br />The mothers have been friends since before my youngest was born. I have a close and warm relationship with my firstborn, and she has been kept respectfully out of our adult negotiations.<br /><br />We've been calm and plainly aware that we would know each other closely (for better or worse, in fact) all the remaining days of our lives. A family.<br /><br />The firstborn's mother is a busy administrator and not one for flights of fancy. The younger of my children has an otherwise-also-working feminist blogger for a mom -- one of keen analytical ability and great sympathy.<br /><br />Reading your blog today and really related and appreciated your thoughtfulness. Thank you!AgentXPQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14781156418693486501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-47914811131776615192010-08-21T16:33:48.649-07:002010-08-21T16:33:48.649-07:00My favorite lines:
"The lust for power resid...My favorite lines:<br /><br />"The lust for power resides within us all. Patriarchy is really not all that enjoyable if you like an emotionally engaged relationship with your child and have any respect for your partner."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-50239029674816885672010-08-13T09:39:30.231-07:002010-08-13T09:39:30.231-07:00This is an insightful post. We often think of the ...This is an insightful post. We often think of the parental division of labor as something that the parents set, which of course it is to a large degree. But we forget that the kids are a factor, and that their needs, desires, behaviors can shape the parents' minds and behaviors as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-59458399106771226772010-08-12T23:17:56.866-07:002010-08-12T23:17:56.866-07:00Great post!
Even after just a year as a dad, I ...Great post! <br /><br />Even after just a year as a dad, I couldn't agree more that "all is flux." My girls' grandparents are always trying to essentialize them, and I just kind of nod, knowing that next week "Mama's girl" might be "Daddy's girl," and "the thoughtful one" might become "the wild one."Beta Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13848551175803773006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23363296.post-69632838925267023972010-08-12T19:04:58.224-07:002010-08-12T19:04:58.224-07:00Great post, thank you for sharing.Great post, thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com